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About Us

freedom2b is a network of LGBTI people from Christian backgrounds.

freedom2b is a non-judgmental, no agenda, safe place that assists people on their journey to reconcile their faith, sexuality and/or their gender identity.

Christian groups have traditionally been ill-informed about sexual orientation and maintained outdated beliefs about homosexuality. This lack of knowledge has caused much unnecessary suffering not only to LGBTI people, but also their family and friends. Anti-gay positions have not reflected the example of Jesus Christ or how the Christian church should respond. Instead of churches demonstrating love and acceptance, LGBTI people have mostly experienced condemnation, judgment and rejection.

The term “gay Christian” is relatively new but there are now many thousands of individuals, church leaders and entire congregations who have come to a more enlightened understanding of sexuality. Scientific research and a deeper look at the scriptures has helped people realise same-sex-orientation is not a sickness to be healed or a sin to be forgiven. Many have resolved the issue of their sexual orientation and maintained their Christian faith. Others have resolved their sexuality but still have issues of faith to sort out. freedom2b welcomes all.

Whether you have left the church or are still there, freedom2b is your place to connect, gain information, and find support with people who understand your journey.

freedom2b is not a Christian organisation as such, but a network of people from similar backgrounds.

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Who We Help

Resolving the perceived conflict of faith and sexuality is a difficult path for most people from a traditional/conservative Christian culture. LGBTI people from Christian backgrounds have specific needs to be addressed in order to resolve that internal conflict.

LGBTI people from Pentecostal or Charismatic churches in particular have been involved in a form of Christianity that is extremely experiential. They may have sensed the presence of God, seen miracles and healings, enjoyed vibrant worship, spoken in tongues, believed that the Bible is the inspired inerrant Word of God, had prayers answered and been totally committed to Jesus Christ and the church.

At some stage, most have believed that homosexuality is against God’s order and must change in order to fulfill God’s purpose. In other words, there are only two options:

  1. Be heterosexual and a Christian or
  2. Be gay or lesbian and go to hell.

Despite much prayer, nothing has changed. This creates a psychological dissonance between faith and sexuality. Questions begin to arise and beliefs can take hold such as:

  • Why can’t I change my attraction to the same sex?
  • Maybe I am just too weak or I don’t have enough faith?
  • Why is God ignoring me?
  • I a really bad person.
  • Forgiveness is only for those who repent and forsake their sin.
  • Something is wrong with me.

Such people may have left the church, been asked to leave or are living a closeted life, struggling, even tormented with the conflict that sexuality has created with the Christian experience.

On the other hand, some may have left their Christian lifestyles before coming out, or have not experienced a problem in reconciling faith and sexuality. Nevertheless, church background may still be having an impact, which is not well understood by those who have not had similar experiences.

Such people may also experience a degree of alienation in attempts to integrate with LGBTI communities. There may be a degree of hostility or misunderstanding in these communities with regard to Christian faith. Some may also experience a degree of discomfort with what we may perceive as the prevailing sexual ethos in LGBTI communities.

There are several groups of people that freedom2b can assist. Numbers do not reflect priority as each group is equally important.

Group 1. LGBTI people who have left their Churches

freedom2b recognises the specific needs of this group who can be particularly vulnerable. Many have lost their social network, having experienced rejection by friends and family. Some who have been employed in Christian organisations may have lost their livelihoods and experienced hostility from employers and/or colleagues. They have a sense of failure and shame as they perceive that they have ‘given in’ to their homosexuality. They have either been exposed and thrown out of the church or have quietly left knowing it is impossible to change and they will never be accepted as they are. Even though they have accepted their homosexuality they may still live with the subconscious belief that they will go to hell.

The results of the internal dissonance affect people in different ways. For gay men that might include self-destructive behaviours such as unsafe sex and substance abuse. Some have been living with a sexual addiction. Gay men and lesbians can have mental health issues such as depression, and be grieving the loss of a sense of ‘family’ or strong community they once found in church. Some may also be dealing with bitterness and resentment towards individuals, the church and God. Many of these people have also been traumatized by the experience of leaving the church and supposedly turning their back on God.

After leaving the church there may be difficulties integrating with LGBTI communities, Sometimes resulting in feelings of alienation, isolation and disillusionment. Constructing and coming to terms with a new gender and/or sexual identity and new personal relationships can also be fraught, and may bring some to the point of self-harming behaviours. They need:

  • A non-judgemental safe space where they don’t feel there is any agenda except to support them on their journey. All we need to do is listen, not advise or tell them what they should do. If they ask questions then it’s appropriate to respond with information that can help them which may include our personal stories.
  • Connection with other LGBTI people from the same background that reduces the sense of isolation and that they are the only ones that have had this experience.
  • Other resources/information/referrals such as common interest, crisis and support groups.

Group 2. LGBTI people in churches who are not out

The majority at this time are closeted or live in a ‘don’t ask, don’t tell’ culture and therefore have specific needs. The dissonance for most of these people is the most intense as they are still living in the world that creates the dissonance. This also makes this group particularly vulnerable. We know that in just one Pentecostal church in Melbourne, over a two-year period, three young men killed themselves. The issue – their homosexuality. They need:

  • A non-judgemental safe space
  • Confidentiality
  • Theological resources
  • Advocacy
  • Connection with other LGBTI believers
  • Other resources/information/referrals such as common interest, crisis and support groups.

Group 3. LGBTI people in Churches who are out

This group needs lots of encouragement and support, as they are the trailblazers who will make a difference for future generations. They need:

  • A non-judgemental safe space
  • Support
  • Theological resources
  • Connection with other LGBTI believers
  • Other resources/information/referrals such as common interest, crisis and support groups.

Group 4. LGBTI people exploring other spiritual paths

They may be exploring alternative spiritual paths or have integrated parts of their previous belief system with their new spirituality. They need:

  • A non-judgemental safe space
  • Support
  • Connection with other LGBTI people
  • Other resources/information/referrals such as common interest, crisis and support groups.

Group 5. Heterosexual Friends, Family and Supporters

As LGBTI people, we are a minority group. LGBTI people from Christian backgrounds are a very small subset. We welcome all heterosexuals from the same background who are genuinely seeking to understand or through the relationships with people they love or their own research, have come to see that the churches traditional beliefs on homosexuality and gender issues are unfounded, unjust and not in harmony with the concept of a loving Creator. freedom2b welcomes their contribution and support at events, forums and assisting with advocacy. They need:

  • Support
  • Theological resources, books and research information
  • Our stories
  • Other resources/information/referrals such as common interest, crisis and support groups
  • Confidence in the integrity of freedom2b